Okay, so I know this is normal...and I know I'm not the only mom that has ever experienced this, but my first born is driving me crazy! He was doing pretty well for the first couple of weeks after Aidan was born (and I thought--look at me! I've prepared him so well, what a great mom I am!) Then, he got sick and it's been downhill from there. He hasn't shown any aggression toward the baby (quite the opposite in fact...he's been overly loving) but Adam and I are feeling all the effects of a boy who is feeling out-of-place. His new phrases are: "But I WANT TO!" (which he feels is a reason to get to do, eat, or say whatever he wants) and "NOW!" (which he adds to the end of any request or demand--lately it's been more demands than requests).
So, I'm at the end of my rope. (What is that saying? Tie a knot and hang on?) Can any of you relate to my insanity? Because the catch is this: If Adam or I are too harsh with him when he acts out, it actually gets more intense, the whining gets to a much higher level, and then I just want to run away. But the fear is that if we allow the behavior in any way (the whole "ignore it and if he sees it doesn't get any attention, it will stop" theory), that he will start to think that we are okay with him acting totally awfully. I used to think that I was a pretty good mom. In real life, Nate is generally a really, really good kid. But lately I've been thrown into "survival mode" and I HATE that!
Okay, enough of that. I'm sure a lot of you are saying "Been there, done that" and I'm sure things will even out soon. I suppose I wouldn't be so cranky over it IF I was getting more than two hours' sleep at a time and IF I wasn't sick and IF the baby wasn't sick, too. This too shall pass.
Heavenly Father to me: "How badly did you want another baby?"
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I can sooooooo relate so very much. More than I can explain. Alden took a while to adjust. But he did eventually adjust. Big hugs. And send him over to play if you need too!!!
I have no idea what you're talking about. My children are perfect. Good luck!
Ha Ha Ha. Sorry, we've all be there. I remember holding Cameron on my lap because he was frusterated about something and he had settled down, but Brooklyn was screaming. She must have been about a month old. He didn't want me to get her, just hold him. I just kept holding him and then I told him he needed to decide when I should get baby Brooklyn, because she needed me to take care of her. It took a while, but soon he said I could hold her. LOTS of little things like that and it got better... eventually. Hugs from me too.
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